This is a true life story of a woman who is
lamenting her ordeal after getting divorced by her
husband due to her ego and bad advice from
people around her. This was shared by 'Relationship
Matters Forum'. Read below;
I am 32 years old. Me and my ex hubby dated for
six years, I started dating him whilst I was in grade
12, I was 19 years old. We were best of friends, I
waited until he completed college and started work,
my family and his family then met, we got married
and had a son. (7 years old now).
My husband was short tempered at times, but our
problems started when I wanted to make him feel he
can’t control me. Every time we argue, I would pack
my bags, go to my family and explain. My sisters
would phone my husband and shout at him. If he is
controlling me I would always dare him that if you
wish divorce me- I never wanted divorce, I just had
pride and I never wanted to look a lose in his eyes.
One day I pushed him so had that for the first time
he beat me and lock me out side, I went to my
family, my family took him to police, every time I
looked like I am being abused! But to be honest, I
used to abuse my husband emotionally.
He was arrested and detained. I was asked by his
family to withdraw the case, I felt that what I was
doing is wrong.
My husband was never a violent man, he did what
he did because I pushed him to the wall. Of which
he openly knelt down and apologized. I withdrew the
charge, and we reconciled.
After three months, I packed my bags after a small
issue, and he remained alone. After two days I
received a call that he is in hospital, my family told
me that I shouldn’t go there because it will look like
am begging him, and my sisters believed he is
faking the illness.
All this time, people felt sorry for me like I was the
one being abused. He spent a week in hospital, after
he came out, I just received a divorce summon. I
wanted to say no to divorce, but because I felt this
pride, I wanted him to change his mind and beg me,
I called him and say he will get the divorce because
I live like am in hell.
When we went to court, I wanted to make him pay,
so I told the court that I needed his properties to be
shared. To my surprise he openly told the court that
whatever he and me acquired together should be
given to me, all he wanted was divorce.
We got divorced in 2009 July. Now, this Saturday my
husband is getting married again, whilst I am here
wasted! My family are gossiping about me, I depend
on what my ex gives to my son for survival. I know I
wasted my marriage. I am here telling all wives to
be careful how you get advise. Don’t be cheated.
Even my young sisters are much more respected
than me. Those who encouraged me to divorce are
always bad mouthing me.
There is no benefit in pride!
