5 major facts that prove women are the cause of domestic violence

Domestic violence has become a viral issue in
the society now with many women starting to
speak up on the abuse they have suffered while
with their husbands and in their matrimonial
homes.

Many women have lost their lives to this
domestic violence while many has suffered bouts
of pains and emotional trauma as a result of the
constant battering they receive from their
spouses.

While the men who beat their wives have been
called demons and beasts as a result of their
actions, it would be wise for us to carefully
examine this issue and put the blames where
they ought to.

The society should stop painting the men as the
bad one, while they have been called beasts, it
would also do us good to consider the role of
the women who made the men turn them into
animals with their constant battering and
beatings.

Please do not take it the wrong way, domestic
violence is bad and no woman should have to go
through it. It is a terrible experience that may
have an everlasting impact on a woman’s mental
health.

Find below some of the reasons why women are
considered to be a major cause of domestic violence:

1. Nonchalant attitude
Most women who suffer domestic violence must
have somehow seen the signs while they were
dating their husbands. But many women prefer to
live under the illusion that the men would change
or they are probably madly in love with them.
Love is not aggressive, it is kind. Love would not
hit you hard and make you lose your mind.
Some women have been hit by their partners
during courtship, yet they make up excuses for
them and still walk down the aisle. A man who
beats you before marriage could kill you as soon
as you become his wife.

2. Thirst for materialism
Some women do not want to live within the
means of their husbands and end up bruising the
men’s ego. They are too sophisticated for the
men they are married too and confront the men
with this point.
Some women make their husbands feel
worthless while shun theirs openly. Attitudes like
these could frustrate anyone and bring out the
beasts in them.

3. Infidelity
It is not appropriate for anyone to cheat within
the clause of marriage; the society promotes
men as philanderers who cannot be checked as
a result of their sex. This could hurt a woman
and also push her to explore that option too.
As women, if you must cheat, please endeavor to
do things the proper way. If you are tired of that
union, find your way out peacefully. But do not
ever mock your husbands by flaunting your
extramarital affairs in their faces. Those that tried
it are six feet under the ground, and those who
lived to tell their own tales are not healthy now.

4. Unchecked utterances
Women are known to be loud most times with
many nagging every little chance they have.
Certain words spoken by women also infuriate
the men and could make them go beyond their
limits.
The tongue is a sharp sword; some use their
tongues to bring down their husbands and make
them depressed. Do not use yours to destroy
your home. Although this is not a justification on
the men’s part, it would be wise for the women
to steer clear of things that may birth trouble in
that marriage.

5. Failure to leave an abusive
marriage
We understand that most of the women in our
society are good mothers ‘ abiyamo ’, we implore
you to stop using your children as an excuse to
put up with domestic violence and abuses in
your marriage.
These children would grow up and become what
God wants them to be. If you die during a fatal
domestic violence, these kids’ lives continue.
Women find different excuses to stay in abusive
relationships. Some profess their love for the
men who beat them and think they cannot do
without them.
Some simply enjoy the doses of affection that
come after a violent attack from their husbands.
Marriage is not a do or die affair. Any union that
would steal your peace and cut short your life
span is not worth fighting for.

Source:Naij