Astonishing isn’t it? That you will hear a word like this “Testing?” What exactly are men testing? I will let you in on it.

Okay there is this thing some men do, I will not do a hasty generalization because there are a few people who do not subscribe to this mindset. Well let me continue. There are some men who believe in being with so many women before settling down with “the right one”, as they see fit. I mean why would you just break several hearts and finally think you can find the right one?

Well moving on, this is real, it is happening in our society that there are young guys who would boldly tell you they cannot get married to a lady without testing them. What then do they refer to testing and why do they do it. Below are a “few” testing aspects.

1. Prowess: This is the ultimate for most men, they will not marry a lady except they sleep with them. This is to determine how good the woman is in bed. According to them, the more bold and assertive the lady is, the better for them, and some other subjective reasons like that. Who wants a boring sex life or one they would not be satisfied with anyway? They say. But is it not a wonder that no matter the several sex styles pulled off by the lady, or how submissive and complying, they still move on and may probably settle with someone totally different. Why is that, you may ask? It is simple, people are not satisfied. Since sex is an addiction, one wants more, and wants to explore. It takes discipline for a man to settle with one lady.

2. Fertility: This particular point often times top the list. Most African men go about the testing to see the lady that will be fertile enough to carry their seed. So they move from one lady to another. Often, they settle for the one who is pregnant for them, not necessarily the one they love. They say what does love have to do with anything? But in situations where the man has a fertility problem he keeps moving around testing and thinking the problem is with the ladies, not knowing he is with the problem. This often leads to frustration if the man does not swallow his pride to go do a check-up on himself.

3. Kitchen Skills: We all know the popular saying that the way to a man’s heart is through the stomach. I wonder how many people still believe this. Anyway, some men go the extra mile telling every lady they meet to cook for them. You hear them ask a lady on first encounter if she can cook, and then the proceed to tell them they would love to eat their food. From there they judge whether the culinary skills of the person is above or below par. It becomes like a work for them. It is a mindset thing that they must settle with someone who can cook. If the person cannot cook then definitely she is off their list.

The problem here is, most often who they settle with may win their stomach but not their heart. Since cooking is a survival skill it is well advised that the man in question know how to cook his own meals so as to be a proper judge of the kind of woman he wants to marry.

Besides, if you clearly love an individual, what he or she can do at the moment should not be a problem. If they can cook, fine if they cannot cook but are willing to learn, you are there to help. If they are not willing to cook, well, that is why you are there as the man. It is no taboo to cook at home. Relationship, marriage after all is about understanding and covering up for the inabilities of our partners.

4. Character: Some men jump from one woman to another in search of “the perfect character”. Though in truth, this might seem reasonably noble enough to hold dear while on the jumping ship cruise. But it isn’t ideal. Yes, men go into several relationships with the excuse that the previous relationships lacked the character they needed. But most often, people do pretend if they realise this is the character you need or are in search of.

And then when you eventually settle with them, they unleash hell on you.

However, love is not enough in quantifying who to finally settle with, but should be one of the reasons if not the most important reason one must marry, then character. Let it be that the character of who you want to get involved with is in sync with yours. That is why it is important to have what you are looking for first in your mind, so that when once it appears before you, you can identify it.

Now these are the reasons why men change relationships like clothes, do you think they are enough reasons why it should hold valid?

HOW TO MAKE A MAN ADMIRE YOU, CHASE YOU, FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU AND MARRY YOU!

If you don't want to grow white hairs before you get married, here are the things you need to do to attract your man and get married on time:

1. SMILE: Men love smiling women. No, not the one that begins and ends with the mouth, the one that starts from the eyes. Genuine, loving smile attracts people, creates friendship and unlock doors! Learn to smile at people baby, women who lack men's attention rarely smile. They are always cold and look as if they are carrying the problem of the whole world on their head! Some of these ladies even frown a lot! Look, everybody has a problem, no man wants to add another person's problem to his own. Be a genuinely happy person and show it by smiling at people. Men will find you irresistible and seek to know you more.

2. BE HUMBLE: Humble women don't lack suitors! One way to stay single for a long long time is to be proud and cocky! Proud women are a big turn off! If you always roll your eyes at people, segregate yourself from the company of common people, talk down on anybody and you are practically rude because of your class, money, car, social status, job, etc, you will stay single forever! Be humble! Learn to accommodate all class for people. Learn to serve others. Learn to use "sir" when talking to men. Some men may tell you it doesn't matter but secretly, they love it. Men love it when women address them with respect. Learn to be respectful and submissive to authorities.

3. BE CONFIDENT: Confident women are attractive any day any time. Knowing who you are, pursuing your dreams, vision, passion and goals makes you a confident person worth investing in. When you know your reason for being here on earth is far more than getting married, punch out few kids and stay locked in the kitchen forever, you approach life with a positive mind set, you are energetic and confident in who you are, you have a good, sound self esteem and men are irresistibly drawn to you.

4. BE FRIENDLY: Ladies who keep to themselves hoping some Prince Charming will find them are not ready for marriage. Be friendly! Being friendly is different from being desperate and cheap. Go out. Attend positive programmes, conferences, seminars, workshops, symposiums and serve in your local church. Enjoy meeting people and getting to know them purely for friendship not for marriage. A man can smell it a million mikes away if you are desperate and chasing him. Just be yourself. If you are just being friendly and he thinks you are cheap, that's his headache! Don't let that stop you from being friendly to people. Smile a lot, meet people and be a happy person to have around.

5. BE GENEROUS: Stingy women who can't part with anything don't know what marriage is about. Be generous to people. Be generous with what you have. Be generous with your smile, your love, your talent, your service, your money, your prayers, whatever you've got that can bless lives. Generous women are men attractors, they never lack admirers.

6. BE FORGIVING: Forgive all your EX, forgive the guy who abused you or rape you, forgive all who disappointed you in the past. Practice advance forgiveness, forgive people before they hurt you, more people will offend you. If you find it difficult forgiving people, you will grow bitter and people will move away from you especially men. Release the man who promised you marriage but disappointed you and married someone else. Actually, you were not meant to be. If you had married him, you may have been divorced or dead! Thank God for it and move on. If you don't release that man you may never find any man to marry! Men will unconsciously move away from you and you will be singe and miserable for the rest of your life!

7. BE INTELLIGENT: Men like intelligent women. Know when, how and where to talk. Don't be a dummy upstairs. Know what is going on around you. You shouldn't be a naive, empty-brained, beauty queen. Your face may get you into the marriage, your brain will determine how long you last. A man likes a woman who can give intelligent answers to questions and contribute meaningfully to discussions. If he asks you, "Why is Nigeria in the mess we are in?" And you scratched your head, looked at the ceiling, bite your finger and say, "I don't know" Your brain needs revival!

8. BE NEAT: Dirty ladies are not good marriage candidates. Some ladies look great outside but if you see where they step out, you will remember world war 2! Very dirty, disorganized and rough to say the least! No sane man wants to marry a dirty woman. Learn to be neat. Take good care of your underwear, learn to shave. Keep off the body and mouth odour. Deal with the eczema and pimples, do your hair on time or comb it well. Always appear neat and presentable.

9. LEARN HOW TO DRESS WELL: Wear something that fits you, not what is in vogue. Get a good tailor who can sew clothes that fits your body shape. Learn about your body shape and wear something that flatters your figure. Straight ladies need clothes that flatters the waist line. There are some clothes good on hourglass not good on pear, apple shapes will look great in shirts and suits, pears will look great in gowns etc. I'm not saying you can't wear different kinds of clothes, just wear the ones that fit you. They make you sweet to look at and simply irresistible!

10. LOVE YOURSELF: You can't love others if you don't love yourself. Celebrate yourself. Accept yourself the way you are, you are simply the best. Don't envy anybody. Not everyone's got what you've got, celebrate your uniqueness. Men love ladies who love themselves. Don't envy someone else's looks, love what you have. Don't wish you have a fuller chest, heavy bum, sexy nose or longer hair. The man God created for you needs someone exactly like you and will fall in love with you just the way you are so chill and appreciate God.

11. BE GODLY: Godly women carry God and carry gold. Men find you irresistible.

12. BUILD A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR DAD AND SIBLINGS: It tells a man how you will treat him in marriage.

13. BE FEMININE: Some women have masculine nature: the "Tomboys"! And there are men who love tomboys, honestly! Not with standing, learn how to sit like a lady and talk like a lady! It's "un woman" to sit with your laps thrown apart, you belch loudly after gulping a bottle of malt and barge in and out of a house like a soldier! Even soldiers are regal in their steps! Stop giving men the impression that they want to marry a man! Be ladylike! Learn it if it is not natural with you.

14: BE HARDWORKING: No man wants to marry a lazy, indolent, passive, idle, backward, sleeping, purposeless and visionless woman! You will attract your kind! If you want a hardworking man, be hardworking, up and doing, agile, proactive, versatile, business minded, creative and industrious. Learn how to make money and have an active bank account!

15: READ BOOKS: Ladies who read instead of jumping from house to house gossiping about nothing in particular don't lack good suitors. Read godly books that will bless your life and make you a testimony to others. My husband was attracted to me because I was a voracious reader. John Mason brought us together.

16: GODLY ASSOCIATIONS: Some women will never marry until they change their friends. If you want to marry fast, you will need to let go of your unserious friends who enjoy clubbing and get close to married women with beautiful marriages whom you can learn from!

These and more are the things you need to do to get a godly suitor and marry gloriously. You still need to pray though, some delay are spiritual in nature. No matter what you do, you may never get a man to marry if you don't break some yokes through earth shaking prayers and violent application of the word.

You should practice all these if you want to get married on time and also get in the word, pray against delay and deal with every stronghold and spiritual problems in your life.

Two Nigerian pilots Ajibola Sinmisola & her man Tony Crown are 'seriously' in love.They are set to tie knot the sooner.

Check out their lovely photos above which actually explains 'when two pilots' are in love!